Sex researchers have difficult jobs because it’s nearly impossible to get people to tell the truth about sex. A lot of research, however, has gone into learning how often men and women have sex. An equal amount of time has been spent getting people to admit the true number of sexual partners that they’ve had.
Since you can’t trust everyone who answers surveys about sex, you have to take the results with a grain of salt. Peer-reviewed articles are probably much more accurate than what you hear from your pals after a few drinks, but they’re still questionable.
With that caveat in mind, get ready to learn about how much sex your peers are really having. The results may surprise, shock or disappoint you.
Facts From the Most Reliable Source
If you want to learn accurate facts about sex, then you have to turn to the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Before Dr. Kinsey started researching sexual behaviors in humans from a scientific perspective, people didn’t know anything other than what they heard from their friends.
Here are some quick facts from the Kinsey Institute. See how your experience compares with the institute’s findings.
- The average male in the United States has sex for the first time at 16.8 years old.
- The average for females is a bit higher at 17.2 years old.
- About 28 percent of Americans over 45 have sex at least once per week.
- More women over 50 prefer oral sex to penile-vaginal intercourse.
In other words, most of your peers probably had sex for the first time when they were about 17 years old. People over 45 still get busy pretty often. Older women go for oral. Who can blame them? Oral sex is amazing!
Americans Are Having Less Sex Now Than in the 1980s and 90s
With so many booty call apps, you’d think that today’s Americans would be having way more sex than they did a couple of decades ago. Just swipe right and get your swerve on, right?
Apparently not. A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior (it’s really technical and not sexually stimulating at all, but feel free to read the study’s abstract for free), couples are having less sex now than they did in the 1980s and 90s.
Getting it on climaxed in the mid-1990s, when couples reported having sex 65 times per year. Hey, that’s more than once a week. Sounds pretty good. By 2014, couples reported having sex only 53 times per year. That’s once per week plus an extra round during vacation.
If you don’t want to fall into the category of people who barely get laid once a week, you have options. Single men and men in relationships can make themselves more physically attractive by staying in shape. And for the love of all that’s sexy, start using hair products that will improve your style.
Also, treat your partner well and share responsibilities equally. Egalitarian couples report that they have more sex than couples that don’t share responsibilities fairly.
Can You Have Too Much of a Good Thing?
You’d think that having sex with more people is a good thing. You get to have fun and add sex scenes to your spank bank for when you masturbate. Oddly enough, reports show that men who have sex with more partners before getting married tend to feel less satisfied in their marriages.
People with no previous partners say that their marriages rock. Given the circumstances, they’re literally having the best sex of their lives.
Maybe your friend who boasts about bedding double digits is setting himself up for a miserable future. Or maybe it just depends on how men choose to interpret their sex histories and current relationships.
One thing is certain, you need to schedule a cut and shave at BSG before you have any chance of even talking to your next partner.