{"id":2985,"date":"2019-11-11T11:00:19","date_gmt":"2019-11-11T11:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/barbersurgeonsguild.com\/a\/dispatch\/?p=2985"},"modified":"2023-11-28T21:17:46","modified_gmt":"2023-11-28T21:17:46","slug":"how-to-be-cool-and-look-hot-a-guide-for-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/barbersurgeonsguild.com\/es\/magazine\/how-to-be-cool-and-look-hot-a-guide-for-men\/","title":{"rendered":"How to be Cool & Look Hot – A Guide for Men"},"content":{"rendered":"

Many people accept the idea that learning how to be cool takes place early in life. There\u2019s this prevailing thought that, if you\u2019re not cool by the time you leave high school, it\u2019s just not going to happen. If you\u2019ve accepted this as a fact of life, you need to start by calming the heck down and taking a breath. Rest assured, being cool and looking hot isn\u2019t necessarily a born trait.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, you might already be cool without knowing it. No one noticed Vincent van Gogh was cool until <\/span>after<\/span><\/i> his death, and while you definitely don\u2019t want to wait that long, there’s no doubt that you can get to the point of being cool. Sometimes, you just need a little help bringing out all the suave and debonair. Luckily for the all the lost souls, this guide will help you accomplish just that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stop Being So Needy<\/b><\/h2>\n

Before we delve into all the other methods of how to be cool and hot, let\u2019s talk about the elephant in the room: <\/span>Guys need to stop being so damned needy.<\/span><\/i> Once you\u2019re done reading this guide, you might walk into a bar and immediately catch all the ladies\u2019 eyes, but the moment you come off as needy, you might as well scratch that pickup spot off your list.<\/span><\/p>\n

The fact is that women don\u2019t like needy guys, and if you find one that does, rest assured there should be some red flags going off. This personality trait (i.e. <\/span>flaw<\/span><\/i>) can become exhausting for those we\u2019re around. More to the point, though, it\u2019s downright depressing. Most of us have been around an excessively needy person, and it really just sucks the positivity out of the room.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s understandable that this trait might be a difficult one to conquer, but all the <\/span>How to Be Cool<\/span><\/i> guides in the world won\u2019t help if everyone sees you as needy. And while this may seem cheesy, the first step in overcoming this is recognizing you have value. You just need to take measures to fight against the anxiety you feel.<\/span><\/p>\n

If all else fails, though, fake it! When you feel that urge to talk too much or follow a lady\u2019s movements nonstop, just stop where you are and engage in a little unhealthy repression. It can go a long way.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t Underestimate the Hair<\/b><\/h2>\n

We\u2019re obviously going to touch base on how to dress and put on an attractive face (yeah, you can tweak your face), but it\u2019s important that we start with the hair. Some guys think they\u2019re limited on what they can do with their mane, so they often put no thought into it at all. Then you\u2019ve got the manly men who think paying too much attention to their hair is \u2018girly.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ve got to stop thinking that way immediately. Do you think Brad Pitt woke up every day looking like <\/span>that<\/span><\/i> during the filming of <\/span>Fight Club<\/span><\/i>? No way. Add this to the fact that women are<\/span> five times more likely<\/span><\/i><\/a> to contact guys on dating apps with full heads of hair, and it becomes obvious just how important this feature really is.<\/span><\/p>\n

You should start by having a frank discussion with your barber. You don\u2019t exactly have to tell them you\u2019re learning how to be cool and hot, but let them know you\u2019re looking for something stylish. Check out these<\/span> sexy men\u2019s hairstyles<\/span><\/a> for ideas, but keep in mind that not every \u2018do\u2019 will look good on every guy. This is why the barbershop discussion is important.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cBut article-writing guy, my hair is thinning!\u201d<\/span><\/i> Calm down, that\u2019s not the end of the world. There are countless <\/span>hair loss products<\/span><\/a> out there that can do wonders, and if you <\/span>really<\/span><\/i> want to take the bull by the horns, you should consider a <\/span>scalp camo procedure<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Clean Yourself, For Crying Out Loud<\/b><\/h2>\n

Your plans were to sit at home Friday night and watch the new <\/span>Breaking Bad<\/span><\/i> movie, but then your buddy called up and said you\u2019re going out. While the last-minute nature of this request may make skipping the shower seem like an acceptable move, there is no situation where this is true. A<\/span> full 63 percent<\/span> of singles cited an \u2018unclean appearance\u2019 as an immediate deal breaker.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even if you learn how to be cool, most people are going to quickly judge a book by its cover. And if your cover is frayed with moisture stains, rest assured you\u2019re getting left on the shelf. Wash your hair, clip your fingernails, use some deodorant and for crying out loud, put on a clean shirt. Having a clean and kempt appearance will get you through the first hurdle so you can put your cool new attitude on display.<\/span><\/p>\n

Put Some Effort into Dressing Nice<\/b><\/h2>\n

Dressing well is one of the few tips that will make you look cooler <\/span>and<\/span><\/i> hotter. When you\u2019re<\/span> dressing for success<\/span>, you need to first consider the situational aspect of your day. Are you going out on a Tinder date or hanging with the guys at a sports bar? Is the order of the day to land a cushy new job? Whatever the case, you need to tailor your outfit to the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

If the moment calls for a suit, make sure that you wear it well. The fit of a suit will determine whether you look refined or like you just came from Goodwill. If you\u2019re going out in jeans, opt for dark, raw denim. Pre-distressed jeans are falling out of style, and your pair will eventually get distressed on its own. Snag a good watch, pick out some nice matching shoes and head out into the world.<\/span><\/p>\n

Learn Some Practical Skills<\/b><\/h2>\n

When learning how to be cool, you\u2019ll figure out that it\u2019s not always about what you say and wear. As it turns out, women <\/span>love<\/span><\/i> guys with practical skills as well. A willingness to listen, for instance, is a trait that\u2019s constantly listed by women as a huge turn on. Your ability to cook and clean also typically falls under \u201cpractical skills,\u201d but so does romancing.<\/span><\/p>\n

And if you can get the romancing down pat, you can work on the cleaning later.<\/span><\/p>\n

Two of the main practical skills women view as \u2018hot\u2019 are your earning potential and how good you are in bed. Remember that earning potential is just that: <\/span>potential.<\/span><\/i> This means going to school for a great job is almost as beneficial as actually having that job.<\/span><\/p>\n

Develop a Sense of Humor<\/b><\/h2>\n

Being in a band or riding a motorcycle can go a long way in making you look cool. Fortunately, a sense of humor can go even farther. Plus, it requires much less practice and cash. One study found that over<\/span> 80 percent of women<\/span><\/a> listed a sense of humor as the <\/span>most important<\/span><\/i> trait in a partner. Sure, you\u2019ll snag lots of gals by being generally cool, but if you want a <\/span>partner,<\/span><\/i> humor is where it\u2019s at.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just like knowing how to be cool, many guys think you either have a sense of humor or you don\u2019t. Fortunately, this isn\u2019t always the case. In fact, the first step in developing a witty sense of humor is knowing that <\/span>you can.<\/span><\/i> Like most things in life, it all comes down to practice. Do you have a friend who enjoys quipping with others? Spend time with them as a witty \u2018sparring partner.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

You can also just get out in the world and immerse yourself in conversation. Being witty requires spontaneity, and while jumping into this endeavor headfirst might be a trial by fire, it\u2019s one of the best ways to improve. Sarcasm and silly humor are also enjoyable, but they can also get really old, really fast. Keep them ready on the bench, but make wit your starting pitcher.<\/span><\/p>\n

Another sound tip is to immerse yourself in humor. Funny podcasts, humorous books and standup comedians are all great tools in this process. This can give you general ideas on how to respond to certain situations, but since you\u2019re not a professional comedian anyway, you can also straight up steal some okes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Case in point: I had a Tinder date tell me she would not put up with any shenanigans. Not a great addition to the conversation, right? I quickly responded with:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cPlease, I haven’t shenaniganned in about six years. I’ve hooliganned, I’ve no-good-nicked, I’ve ne’er-done-well, just yesterday I found myself rabble-rousing\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

She got a kick out of it, and I got to thank Eric Forman from <\/span>That 70\u2019s Show<\/span><\/i> for getting me a second date. You work with what you\u2019ve got!<\/span><\/p>\n

Oh, and on a closing note… <\/span>PLEASE<\/i><\/b> know your audience. A joke that’s inappropriate in a certain situation could ruin your social life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even if Beauty is Only Skin Deep\u2026<\/b><\/h2>\n

Guys who learn how to be cool without a little accompanying hotness usually hang out in one spot: <\/span>The Friend Zone.<\/span><\/i> They say beauty is only skin deep, but try telling that to Steve Urkel, the funniest and nicest kid in Chicago who still needed nine seasons of <\/span>Family Matters<\/span><\/i> to land his dream girl.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re probably saying <\/span>\u201cHumor, hair, clothes and even sex I can do, but how do I physically get more attractive?\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Glad you asked. While you may not be able to completely change your face \u2013 outside of extensive plastic surgery \u2013 you can make it more appealing. Start by getting rid of imperfections. If you\u2019ve got acne or similar skin problems, there are tons of over-the-counter medications you can utilize. If they don\u2019t work, go visit a dermatologist. They can give you the good stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to scarring, wrinkles and other hard-to-treat facial imperfections, though, there are fewer options you can just purchase at the pharmacy. Fortunately,<\/span> laser treatments are available<\/span> that can reduce scarring, smooth your skin, balance your color tone and more. Even better is that these procedures can often be done in under 15 minutes.<\/span><\/p>\n

The moral of the story is that you should never just assume that you\u2019re stuck with what you\u2019ve got. That\u2019s rarely the case.<\/span><\/p>\n

Portray Confidence<\/b><\/h2>\n

Did you know that <\/span>self-confidence affects your sex life<\/span>? Then again, you might not have much of a sex life if this trait is lacking. Ask any lady, and she\u2019ll tell you that confidence is one of the most important features in a man. Improving in this area can garner even the most basic guy a few extra points on the hotness scale.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fortunately, there are countless ways you can improve your confidence. In fact, it\u2019s a travesty that more guys don\u2019t know about them. To start, you\u2019ve got to get over your shyness. <\/span>Of course, you can speed this process up by engaging in the following activities:<\/span><\/p>\n